First posted to: https://surehopecounseling.com/core-wound-i-am-unforgivable/ Maybe you’ve repeatedly been given the silent treatment after you’ve wronged someone or even after an apology and you weren’t sure when it would end. Maybe you’ve felt like you were forced to “earn” forgiveness by…
Denying Your Core Wounds and The False Self
First posted to: https://surehopecounseling.com/denying-your-core-wounds-and-the-false-self/ Denying your core wounds leads to the false self. Facing and healing from your core wounds helps your true self come alive. The False Self is the self we create to cover up our deficiencies that…
Core Wound: I Am Unknown
First posted to: https://surehopecounseling.com/core-wound-i-am-unknown/ As humans we desire to be known and connected intimately and deeply to others. This is evident in our evolution and integral in our psychological needs. We can see this in Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs, which…
Core Wound: My Life is Insignificant
First posted to: https://surehopecounseling.com/core-wound-my-life-is-insignificant/ As humans, we long for our lives to be deep, meaningful, and impactful. God designed it to be this way, as we read in the very first chapter of Genesis. God gave Adam dominion over the…
Core Wound: I Am Incapable
First posted to: https://surehopecounseling.com/core-wound-i-am-incapable/ The core wound of “I am incapable” can cover many areas of life. For instance, there can be a belief that one is incapable of love, incapable of achieving, incapable of being known, incapable of intimacy,…
I Am Unworthy: The Betrayed Female Partner
First posted to: https://surehopecounseling.com/i-am-unworthy-the-betrayed-female-partner/ The core wound, “I am unworthy” may be triggered by various circumstances in one’s life however, in the following it will be addressed from the perspective of a sexually betrayed female partner. The crisis of sexual…
Core Wounds: How They Attack Your Identity
First posted to: https://surehopecounseling.com/core-wounds-how-they-attack-your-identity/ Core wounds are significant and deep. Many times, they are wounds that first took root as a small child and throughout life were reinforced throughout a myriad of negative situations and circumstances. There are many examples…
Core Wound: I Am Not Safe
First posted to: https://surehopecounseling.com/core-wound-i-am-not-safe/ When John was a child, his father would come home from a night of drinking, angry and volatile. During those times neither John nor his sisters would know what to expect. He could be verbally and…
Core Wound: I Don’t Measure Up
First posted to: https://surehopecounseling.com/core-wound-i-dont-measure-up/ I believe that at the core of every core wound is shame. Edward Welch provides an apt description of shame: “You are shunned. Faces are turned away from you. They ignore you, as if you didn’t…
Core Wound – “I Am Weak or Powerless”
First posted to: https://surehopecounseling.com/core-wound-i-am-weak-helpless-or-powerless/ How did you feel, just reading the title of this blog post? Has this ever been you? Has this been your story for some time? If you’ve been following along in our core wounds series, you’ll…
“The Father Wound” – Understanding Problems in the Child & Father Relationship
“The Father Wound” article was first posted to: https://surehopecounseling.com/the-father-wound-understanding-problems-in-the-child-father-relationship/ “The Father Wound” is a trauma wound affecting more people than drugs or alcohol combined. It cuts deeper than flesh and bone and works its way to the soul. It affects…
CORE WOUND: “I’M DEFECTIVE”
First posted to: https://surehopecounseling.com/core-wound-im-defective/ In a nutshell, core beliefs are a person’s most central ideas about themselves, others, and the world. These beliefs act like a lens or pair of glasses through which every situation and life experience is seen….