First posted to: https://surehopecounseling.com/surviving-childhood-sexual-abuse-by-a-member-of-your-family-of-origin/ Childhood sexual abuse (CSA) is devastating in any context, but when the person who harmed you is a member of your own family, the impact can be uniquely complicated, causing the child to question all they…
Preventing the Wound of Emotional Neglect
First posted to: https://surehopecounseling.com/preventing-the-wound-of-emotional-neglect/ Parenting can be very rewarding but let’s be honest – it’s rarely easy. Most parents really love their children and desire to do the best they can in raising them. Even those who are blessed with…
Grieving the Parents We Needed
First posted to: https://surehopecounseling.com/grieving-the-parents-we-needed/ Many people have heard of the concept of “filling your cup,” whether this refers to self-care, relationships, finding joy, etc. “My cup is full” is something people often say when they feel that all of their…
Healing from the Achievement-Focused Parent: Finding Your Worth Beyond Performance
First posted to: https://surehopecounseling.com/healing-from-the-achievement-focused-parent-finding-your-worth-beyond-performance/ Growing up with a parent who measured love and approval through achievement can leave deep, invisible marks. Whether it was grades, sports, appearance, or career milestones, the message was often subtle but clear: You are valued…
Healing From Shame
First posted to: https://surehopecounseling.com/healing-from-shame/ “The ball is, as it were, in our court. God has invaded human history and reality. Jesus Christ has died on our behalf, is risen, and is now supervising events on earth toward an end that…
The Family Wounds of Our Adopted Children
First posted to: https://surehopecounseling.com/the-family-wounds-of-our-adopted-children/ Imagine this scenario: You are moving away and will not be coming back. You have less than 10 minutes to pack 10 items or people to take with you. For example, ‘shoes’ do not count as…
Parentification: When the Child Becomes the Parent
First posted to: https://surehopecounseling.com/parentification-when-the-child-becomes-the-parent/ Family of origin wounds are a result of unmet emotional needs, neglect, or harmful patterns that exist within the family unit. In response to these experiences, children may develop coping mechanisms that can continue into adulthood,…
Healing From Family of Origin Wounds: The Authoritarian Parent
First posted to: https://surehopecounseling.com/healing-from-family-of-origin-wounds-the-authoritarian-parent/ Parenting. Arguably one of the most challenging and rewarding roles that a person can take on in life. A role we are often expected to just know how to perform because we have been parented for…
The Deep Wounds of Playing Favorites
First posted to: https://surehopecounseling.com/the-deep-wounds-of-playing-favorites/ Is there a “black sheep” in your family? One that’s not so much like the others, whether in personality, temperament, or even physically? Many families will deny the existence of a “black sheep,” often because the…
Healing Family of Origin Wounds: The Permissive Parent
First posted to: https://surehopecounseling.com/healing-family-of-origin-wounds-the-permissive-parent/ What does the phrase “permissive parent” make you think of? I often think of Regina George’s mother from the film Mean Girls. Mrs. George provided her high school-aged daughter (and her friends) with adult beverages and…
Trauma, Development, and Spirituality: Protective Factors for Family of Origin Wounds
First posted to: https://surehopecounseling.com/trauma-development-and-spirituality-protective-factors-for-family-of-origin-wounds/ Childhood is a critical stage in human development. It is during these years that our view of the world, ourselves, and even God is often shaped. Unfortunately, many children grow up navigating painful experiences such as…
Easter: Let It Be Today!
First posted to: https://surehopecounseling.com/easter-let-it-be-today/ SureHope Counseling and Training Center wants to wish you and your family a very happy Easter! As we approach the Easter holiday, while thinking about “healing family of origin wounds” that we have been focusing on…